Decision Making - forgotten secret of every day life
Decision making is something we do without thought, without hesitation, without worry or comeback, each and every day. Yet in the big things, in those moments when our big project hangs in the balance, hesitation, self doubt and fear can come in and spoil our day (or worse). Why is that? Can it be avoided? Would knowing more about the 'making decisions' process better support and assist us - I think yes.
But we should remember that we are rather good at making decisions
Yet we should remember that we are very adept at making decisions. After all, us human beings are making them from the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed
and so it goes on. We are well versed in deciding things. And most of the time there is no problem with that. We make these decisions (almost) without thinking. The moment comes and goes, decision made, life goes on. And if we did hesitate about all these (minor) decisions would any of us do anything, achieve anything.
So what is decision making?
This obviously depends on the situation or circumstance: We may be
So, there is a little more to this decision making process after all . . .
So what is the problem with making decisions?
Certainly looking at the above listing we can see why we might not manage this decision making process every time, or at least as well as we might. It looks complicated. It looks as if there is a problem around every corner. What we conjure up can be what puts that wall in front of us, those unseen hurdles. Those obstacles that we would like to avoid if at all possible.
Here are some possibilities for us to think about in our decision making. If we make the decision before us, and take this route, then the following are options
These alternative scenarios give us a picture of what we can start thinking about that will freeze us in our tracks. That will make decisions seem like hard graft rather than something we should do, and can do, quite naturally.
And, what is behind these difficulties
Some things come to mind that we should be aware of in our decision making
These and others are perhaps underlying the situations and circumstances where we may have difficulties, or at least think we do (which may be enough).
What qualities are useful in decision making?
We all have these qualities to a degree. The following starts the list
Would it help if I was decisive?
Being decisive is something we can admire in people but what is it?
This all sounds a little heavy, but at times we all show some of these qualities. To be decisive is to act and see your action through, but in a flexible, thoughtful manner - so we can all do that, can't we?
Is being dispassionate the answer?
Should we be dispassionate in our decision making? Would this help? It would seem too, in that we 'could' act without feeling or care BUT this is NOT a stance we should be looking at or taking - because
we are human beings with feelings, and should respect that in others, too everything is not black and white, and should not be treated as such we need to see the full picture and realize what impacts on others we need to think of what we can contribute and not just what we can take
We should not get bogged down in the details, but we should think about the consequences and repercussions of what we do.
So we can make decisions, whatever they are?
Yes, of course we can. We all do - each and every day.
It is only the bigger ones that need thought. And they will have a real and perhaps unseen impact on our lives, and that is why we hesitate over them. We need
Decision making is an every day occurrence. (Is it not similar to goal setting in its occurence in our lives?) It is something that we can improve. We can put more of 'us' into the process. We need to think and feel more about the outcomes and repercussions. We need to put ourselves in other people's shoes. But we also know that (at times) we cannot please all the people, and sometimes cannot please ourselves either.
If we make decisions and take decisive action, AND keep other people in 'our' loop, then we are going in the right direction. Good communication is a must. We should think not just of ourselves but of others, too. Don't focus on the decision (and any surrounding problems), rather look at the positive affects and benefits that we can all share from our actions.
Realize you can make decisions. Decision making - know that you are rather good at it. You can improve, but then so can we all. Act for yourself and for the greater good and you will be making an active and fruitful contribution to the life we all lead.
To learn more about decision making and to look at decision making from different angles please follow this link to my decision making website